January 2018’s 6 Grateful Things List

 

January 2018's 6 Grateful Things List

Hey, hey! I’m back, y’all! I took an unscheduled hiatus from the blog.ย I’m hoping such a break doesn’t happen again.ย I’ve missed sharing inspirational messages with y’all!

So, here’s my list.ย  What about your list? Please share your beautiful, fabulous, and grateful January moments with me!

Blessings,

Monica aka afrotasticlady

 

November 2017’s 6 Grateful Things List

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Hey hey! I hope y’all enjoyed some delicious food on Thanksgiving. I sure did. I’m still salivating over the baked mac n’ cheese that my aunt and uncle made. If your Thanksgiving wasn’t enjoyable because of current pains/hurts, I pray that you experience God’s comfort right now. I know the holidays can be a tough season for some folks.

Per usual, I wanted to share some things that made me grateful this month. And please don’t be bashful in sharing your gratitude lists too! ๐Ÿ˜€

By the way, I know the lighting isn’t the best in this vlog. My apologies for that!

Blessings,

Monica aka afrotasticlady

September 2017’s 6 Grateful Things List

September 2017's 6 Grateful Things List

Hey hey! I know it’s been a while since y’all have heard from me, but I’m BACK! As you may remember, I was on a social media break.ย The break definitely had itsย challenges as I noticed howย much I missed Instagram,ย but it was relieving to live in the moment. I enjoyed life without constantly uploading a picture or story to social media. Yet, I’m glad that I am back so that I can mingle with y’all! My online friends, my faithful readers!

So, let’s dig into my gratitude list. Before I start, I want to share some pictures of the New England/Canada cruise that I went on in September. I know that I probably made this statement in the gratitude video, but if you have never gone on a cruise, I highly encourage you to do so. Cruise life is an imaginary world where folks constantly wait on you. ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s a relaxing life, y’all!

Blessings,

Monica aka afrotasticlady

Nova Scotia

Halifax, Nova Scotia

New Brunswick

Saint John, New Brunswick

 

August 2017’s 6 Grateful Things List

August 2017's 6 Grateful Things List

Hey, y’all! August was filled with many splendid moments such a receiving my MSW degree in the mail. If you have been following the blog a bit, you know that completing my degree was a complex journey! But the degree is ย here! #Yass! And I can do my happy dance now.

But I’d like to know about y’all too. How has August been for y’all? Have you experienced happy dance moments, hardships or both? Please chat in the comment section below!

By the way, I will be on a social media vacay until Sept. 24th so life will be silent on the blog! Yet, I can’t wait to chat with y’all when vacay is ย over.

Lastly, check out this delicious piece of cheesecake that I gush about in the vlog! You know you want a piece. ๐Ÿ˜€

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Vanilla bean cheesecake!

Blessings,

Monica aka afrotasticlady

Afrotasticlady Turns Three

Afrotasticlady Turns Three

Three years ago, I was mentally preparing to begin a Master of Social Work program. Even though I had been accepted into the program, I was afraid that I would not survive it. I wondered if I was smart enough and if I would fail at my coursework.

Three years ago, I created afrotasticlady.com. I have always possessed a grand love for writing, and I desired to have a space where I could express myself. I also desired to have a space where women of faith and women of color could be encouraged. A space where these women could read about Godโ€™s love and natural hair. A space where these women could learn about my personal joys and challenges in my journey and where they could reflect on their own lives.

Itโ€™s amazing how I stuck with graduate school and my blog. I couldโ€™ve quit school so many times. And I couldโ€™ve stopped writing in my space, because I hadnโ€™t reached fame as a blogger. Yet, I persevered through the stress of school and graduated with an MSW. And while I am not a top name blogger, I realized in my blogging journey that I did not have to be. If I can encourage myself and other women, then I have achieved success. In this world, success tends to look like a gold trophy and acclaim. As a child of God, success is when I follow His ways. Godโ€™s ways are exploding with love, and I strive to share that love with others.

When a young or older woman stops by my blog, I pray that they experience Godโ€™s love and gratitude. I hope that they know that they can be themselves and that they do not have work to be someone else.

Yesterday was officially my third blogoversary. I thought about all the posts that I’ve written, and the family and friends that have encouraged me to write. Authentic family members and friends will point out your gifts and tell you not to waste them. They wonโ€™t allow envy to dictate their words or actions towards you.

I love that these same family members and friends told me that I would graduate from school. When I was exhausted and dragging myself to classes and internships, they prayed with and for me. When I finally graduated from school, they celebrated with me through their kind words in cards and spending quality time with me.

I tend to not like to write in clichรฉs, but both journeys have come full circle. Now, I am a social worker and the founder of a three-year-old blog.

I am alsoย an advocate of Godโ€™s love. And my aim will continue to be to encourage women to see their own beauty and to fulfill their God-given purposes!

Happy 3rd Blogoversary to afrotasticlady.com! ๐Ÿ˜Šย Aye aye! #Yass!

Family/friends, thanks againย for reading my words for the past three years! And for believing that my words are mighty!

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Guest Blog Post: Why Hair is So Important to the Black Community

(Hey, y’all! It’s been a minute since I’ve had a naturalista swing by the blog! Patrina of naturalhairqueen.net is a beautiful naturalista who is hereย toย drop some knowledge on the social, political, and economic meanings of Black hair. I’m thankful that Patrina came by to share her words as it is a well-written and significant piece. I encourage you to take some moments to read her words too! Blessings, Monica aka afrotasticlady)

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Itโ€™s not just hair. If you mention the deep significance of African-American hair to nonblacks, you might get a blank look. They probably wonโ€™t understand why you are angry when you see cornrows being culturally appropriated. Nor will they get your frustration of not being able to find black hair products on the supermarket shelf.

The way we wear our hair isnโ€™t just about self-expression. Our kinky hairdos and our coily locks are beautiful and unique, but itโ€™s never just about you as an individual. Yes, we struggle with self-acceptance, but itโ€™s not the same as a Caucasian teen wearing a mohawk to be rebellious, or a middle-aged white woman dying her hair bright red to do something fun for the summer.

How we style our hair goes way beyond that. Itโ€™s almost as if weโ€™re representing the entire race. African-American hair is woven into a traumatic history of cultural discrimination, political turmoil, and fighting for basic human rights.

As time passes, weโ€™ve seen mega-companies like Lโ€™Orรฉal scramble to sell to the one market theyโ€™d ignored for years. And itโ€™s about time they paid attention, because the black hair and cosmetics industry is worth $9 billion per year, according to Black Men in America.

The black population is no small market. Nielsen reported that blacks will reach a buying power of $1.3 trillion by the end of 2017. We want to look good and we show it with our wallets, but it goes much deeper than just vanity.

African-American hair bonds and unites us as a people. However, the scars of having been ignored, shunned, and frowned upon still exist. In this post, weโ€™ll discuss why hair is so important in the black community.

Hair is Interwoven into Black History

Black obsession with hair didnโ€™t begin in America, nor does it date back to when Africans were kidnapped and sold as slaves. Hair has always been important to Africans, and we see evidence of this by studying the tribal traditions of our ancestors.

Africans made elaborate hairstyles for celebrations and rites of passage, and they also used styles to determine rank, social class, fertility, manhood, age, and wealth.

So, itโ€™s only natural that we would turn to hair to express ourselves since thatโ€™s what our ancestors did.

When Europeans stole Africans for use as slaves, they uprooted an entire legacy of hair. Being far away from home without styling tools or nourishing butters like Shea, meant that Africans had no way to care for their hair. For the first time, blacks no longer celebrated their hair. Rather, both blacks and whites saw it as a problem.

In 1909, Garrett Morgan invented the first relaxer, and we saw black women flocking to take care of the โ€œproblemโ€.

The Struggle is Real

Why do we pay so much attention to hair? Because managing African hair takes time, patience, and dedication. Whether you have natural, relaxed, or a protective style like braids, you are undoubtedly going to spend hours doing your hair.

Itโ€™s kinky hairโ€™s coily characteristics that make it a challenge. As the tiny coils cling on to each other and tangle, the hair mats until you have time to detangle it. And the detangling itself can take a long time to master without breaking the hair strands.

As we move into the Natural Hair Movement, American women are spending more time and money than ever on perfecting hair. Hair is connected to self-esteem and the way we feel about ourselves and being black.

Do we allow it to go natural? Do we straighten it to appear more โ€œacceptableโ€ in the workplace? These are complex questions that every woman must answer repetitively over the course of a lifetime.

Changing jobs or even just posing for a professional picture might change a womanโ€™s mind from one day to the next about her hair, and whether itโ€™s good enough. Itโ€™s this constant battle that leads us to obsess over hair and continuously โ€œfixโ€ it until itโ€™s ready to be seen by the public eye.

A Common Bond Between Sisters

Our hair connects us. Itโ€™s the internet that brings sisters together. Now we can freely discuss and exchange ideas about how to take care of our complex hair, something we havenโ€™t had since before slavery.

Sure, we always had casual conversations with friends and strangers alike, but You Tube and blogs made our connections stronger and more frequent.

Itโ€™s a grand reuniting of people affected by the African diaspora. These are the conversations we were meant to have hundreds of years ago. But better late than never, and it makes the connections even more compelling.

Itโ€™s not just the ability to research information, but a way of socializing. Our hair journeys give us something to talk about, share, and bond over. And yes, it feels like weโ€™re celebrating once again.

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Patrina is the founder of Naturalhairqueen.net; a blog to educate and inspire women with natural hair. Patrina just celebrated her 10-year natural hair anniversary, and achieved her goal of waist length hair. With the knowledge she has learned over the years she is dedicated to share her knowledge, and experience to educate women who wish to have moisturized, healthy natural long hair.

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Website: www.Naturalhairqueen.net

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Women, Let’s Be Kingdom Builders

Women, Let's Be Kingdom Builders!

(Hey, friends! In June, the church that I was born and raised in, had a Women’s Day service. Annually they have this service, and there is always a specific theme. This year’s theme was “Determined Women: For Such a Time As This,” and the accompanying scripture was Esther 4:14-16. One of the women elders asked me if I could write a piece for the service. I have always appreciated the sweet remarks that folks in this churchย have given me regarding my writing. They see my writing as a gift, and they always encourage me to keep writing. Thus, I was honored when she asked me to share a piece. I would like to share what I read with y’all! I pray that my women readers are encouraged by my words, and that it leads to introspection. Blessings!)

When I was 18 years old, my dad and I packed up his small car with my belongings and left Worcester for Amherst, Massachusetts. Iโ€™d decided to attend Umass Amherst so I could live far from my parentsโ€™ supervision and still come home on the weekends. As someone who had been born and raised in church, I desired to escape God and all His rules. At Umass, I could study and party. I could dance with strangers at parties and get drunk. I could truly โ€œlive.โ€

Yet, living without God is not living. Itโ€™s surviving; itโ€™s hustling. Itโ€™s seeing what you can achieve and where you can go on your own.

In October 2004, my second month at Umass, I went to a Gospel concert on campus. One of my friends was in the Umass Gospel Choir, so I had to support her through my attendance. During the concert, I sensed that God was speaking to me. I was being encouraged to choose Him. After the concert, I returned to my dorm room and called my parents. I told them that I wanted to be saved and they prayed with me. Through God, I changed my lifestyle. I allowed the Bible and worship music to consume me. Despite the challenges that I have encountered in my life, I have remained committed to God.

Women, I share my testimony because I would like you to think about the moment you gave your heart to Christ. Close your eyes if you need to, but please recall your surroundings. Were you at home or church when you became saved? How old were you? Were you the only person in your immediate family that became saved or were you surrounded by God-fearing family members? Were you crying and rocking back and forth? Or were you still when you gave Him your heart?

Women, itโ€™s integral that we remember the moment that we were saved so that we can encourage ourselves. We need to remember the circumstances that God delivered us from. We must understand that God doesnโ€™t save us solely for our own benefit. Indeed, salvation leads us to eternal life with our Lord and Savior. We are also saved to be influencers and advocates of Jesus Christ. We are saved so that other individuals in our environments can receive the gift of salvation.

Our theme scripture for this Womenโ€™s Day service states:

โ€œFor if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your fatherโ€™s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this? Then Esther sent this reply to Mordecai: โ€˜Go gather together all the Jews who are in Susa and fast for me. Do not eat or drink for three days, night or day. I and my attendants will fast as you do. When this is done, I will go to the king, even though it is against the law. And if I perish, I perish.โ€ Esther 4:14-16

Esther, a young Jewish woman, was appointed Queen for a purpose. King Xerxes was unaware of her Jewish identity. Mordecai, her relative, refused to bow to Haman, a royal official. Upon Mordecaiโ€™s actions, Haman was enraged and plotted to destroy the Jews. Mordecai sent word to Esther of this plot and persuaded her to think about her position in the palace. He said, โ€œFor if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your fatherโ€™s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?โ€

Estherโ€™s God-given purpose was to rescue her people from destruction despite the consequences. She could risk her own life by approaching the king without an invitation to his court or she could remain idle in Godโ€™s purpose for her. Esther chose to advocate for the lives of her people. Through her faithfulness, her people were saved.

Women, which people around you need to be saved? Who needs an intercessor? And what will you sacrifice so those people can receive eternal life?

Perhaps, you will not be risking your life as Esther did. You may be risking popularity, time, or money. Younger women, you may be risking the attention of that cute guy who isnโ€™t even a Christian. You may have to stand alone.

Women, no matter your age, your godly riskiness will yield a grand outcome. Your obedience to God will be honored by Him. And your obedience can cause others to reflect on their need for Jesus. By praying with someone or sharing your testimony, you are spreading Godโ€™s light.

Matthew 5:14-16 states:

โ€œYou are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in Heaven.โ€

Women, you were placed in that school, job or apartment building to fulfill Godโ€™s purpose! You were created for this time so that the people surrounding you could rise from their depression, their anxiety, and their chaos.

One of the songs that I have been singing during my prayer time is โ€œWithholding Nothingโ€ by William McDowell. I am struck by the simple yet powerful lyrics:

“I surrender all to You

Everything I give to You

Withholding nothing

Withholding nothing”

Women, I encourage you to examine your lives and what you are holding onto. If you are holding onto fame or other lusts of the flesh, I encourage you to surrender those things to God. I assure you that those things are worthless and that the lives of people around you possess more meaning. I pray that you follow Estherโ€™s example and proclaim โ€œIf I perish, I perish.โ€ If you lose your social status, please note that you are losing it for the causes of the Kingdom.

 

 

June’s 6 Grateful Things List

 

June 2017's 6 Grateful Things List

 

Hey, y’all! It’s July, and my hope was to post this vlog in June, but life got cray crayย busy again. Anywho, I’m posting the vlog now, and that’s all that matters. Last month was my birthday month; my DIVA month! If you know me, you know that birthdays are very important to me. I have to reflect on the blessings that God has given me, but I also have to enjoy time with family and friends. My 31st bday was definitely the highlight of the month. Along with turning older, I also went to a lot of church events. I got hype for Jesus. LOL! Check out the vlog to hear more about my church blessings!

Per usual, let me know what blessings you received in June! Before I go, I’m gonna drop this verse that I have been hearing and thinking about a lot lately. Please meditate on it and let it comfort you in your state ofย weariness, brokenness, heartache, etc.

“But those who HOPE in the Lord will renew their strength. They will SOAR on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they willย WALK and not grow faint.” Isaiah 40:31

Blessings,

Monica aka afrotasticlady